Hi everyone! Welcome to another episode of the Spiritual Alien Podcast.
So, tonight I want to share with you how to get started with your own self-care routine. Interviews are still on pause and will resume next weekend.
In the previous episode, I mentioned that there are various types of guilt and I shared with you 5 questions to help you understand and overcome guilt, but I mentioned that I wanted to focus on one specific type of guilt, which is more common than you think, and that is feeling guilt over taking care of yourself, which is what tonight’s episode will be about.
Oftentimes, many of us tend to be overgivers. We give and give and give, but then when someone wants to give back, we freak out, we say no and we reject their blessing. You are so used to giving that when it’s your turn to receive, it makes you feel bad. This is especially worse if you are constantly giving to people who only take from you and don’t give back, you are used to it, and if they are manipulative they will make you think and believe that you are being selfish simply for asking for help for once. This is why you feel guilty over receiving or even taking care of yourself when you feel tired, drained and wish to isolate yourself from the world to rest and recover. It is all mostly external influence that we internalize and consider it as our own thoughts and feelings, when in reality it’s likely some dumb bitch that wants to drain the shit out of you and keep you low vibrational to keep themselves energized. When you are an overgiver, you will attract a lot of psychic vampires and narcissists.
So, tonight, I want you to once again whip out your phone or notepad with pen or pencil and take some notes with me. You can feel free to pause this episode and write the questions down. If you can and are able to, you can also feel free to answer them right on the spot, as I won’t go anywhere.
First question. How do you get started with a self-care routine?
It all begins with an intention. What do you hope to gain from your self-care routine? Is it to rest more and still your mind with meditation? Take more care of your physical body? Be very specific on what you wish to achieve or gain from your self-care routine, as this will help you to customize your very own self-care rituals based on your needs and desires.
Second question. When can you do your self-care routine?
Alright. We all have shit to do in the outside world, but there is always a moment of rest, whether it’s your day off or when you get home after a long day or when you’re pooping. There is no excuse to not take care of yourself. If you can spend your entire day on Facebook bitching about politics and fighting strangers, you can carve out AT LEAST 10 to 20 minutes to meditate, stretch, walk around or listen to a positive affirmation…or one of my episodes, wink wink. So, in a nutshell, do this when you can. Remember, you want to relax and take care of yourself, not stress out over when is the perfect time to do so.
Third question. What does a self-care routine consist of?
It consists of anything and everything that makes you feel good, replenished, well rested and energized. Think of it as your own sacred safe space. So, what do you enjoy doing? Listen closely, because I will be sharing with you a list of 10 things that you can include in your very own self-care routine!
The first thing you want to do as part of your self-care routine is to chill out, calm down and relax. So, taking a warm bath or shower and then taking a nap is a great combo to include in your self-care routine.
The second thing you may want to do in case you don’t feel like napping is to watch a funny show or movie while eating your favorite snacks. Don’t beat yourself up over what you snack, take this moment to truly savor and enjoy what you are eating and maybe drinking as well.
The third thing you may want to do in case you don’t watch shows or movies is to meditate to connect with yourself and center yourself as well as silencing your mind. So, meditating can help you with calming your racing thoughts, soothing your anxiety, bringing your attention to the present moment and strengthening your connection with all that is.
Perhaps you work from home and feel suffocated being at home all the time, so going out for a walk can help you to stay in shape, exercise the body and strengthen the heart. If you are unable to walk, you can be taken out for a drive around town. Besides, it’s good to get some nice fresh air once in a while. Unless you live in outer space.
Take yourself out on a date. Be daring to go out on your own to a place such as a restaurant with food you are likely to eat or the movie theater. You don’t need to have a partner to do any of these things with, you can also do them on your own, and if you are unsure or you need a gentle push, I ask you to give yourself permission to enjoy things on your own and go for it.
Maybe you don’t like crowded and noisy places like myself and that’s totally fine. Perhaps you want the company without the noise, in which case you can take yourself to a different environment such as a museum or a library, both places are two good options if you want to also learn something new and be in a more relaxed environment.
If you’re like me, you probably don’t give a shit about going out into the world. This idea and the next three ideas will be focused on simple things you can do for yourself at home. Remember, a self-care routine should not be complicated. So for this one, I want you to get up and dance or do yoga. Break the stagnation and the routine by moving your body and your energy. You don’t have to be perfect at it, you just need to move that ass and shake it for me. Both dancing and doing yoga raise your vibration and can also help you to stay fit and healthy as well, besides giving your heart a nice workout.
When was the last time you painted, doodled or did something creative? This is the perfect opportunity to dust off that adult coloring book, mandala coloring book, or blank notebook and start drawing, coloring or painting away. By engaging in a creative activity, you are focusing your mind on the task at hand and in the present moment as well, acting as some sort of meditation. Don’t focus on being perfect, focus on getting it out of your system.
Do an in-home spa routine, where you give yourself a massage with oils, a mani pedi and a face mask. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man, you deserve to take care of your physical vessel as well. You have to understand that there is nothing wrong with pampering yourself and making yourself feel good. A wine or whiskey glass is totally optional but suggested if you enjoy drinking. Alternatively if you are not a drinker, have your weed ready. If you are neither, have a smoothie or fruity bowl ready.
Go the entire day without checking social media, emails and so on. Very simple but challenging if you are addicted to your phone. Sometimes we all need a good ol’ digital detox to detox from all the drama, politics, psychic vampires and comparisonitis. I suggest you do a 24-hour detox from social media and then continue to push yourself to one week or up to a month if you feel daring. The results I had were incredible and I have not needed a detox since then, but you may feel free to take as many social media detoxes as you desire. Remember, your mental health is super important.
You are doing this for yourself. Eliminate the thoughts that taking care of yourself is a waste of time, or that you don’t deserve to do this because you have a million other things more important than yourself. Now hold on a second. Who the fuck told you that you don’t matter and you don’t deserve to take care of yourself? I want you to take your laser gun and exterminate them out of your life.
Forget about the world and its responsibilities, forget about your galactic space goat, or that you need to take your spacecraft to Mars to have it inspected because it’s unable to become invisible and now the men in black are after you, everything can wait. Well, you kinda wanna figure that last one out in case they show up.
But on a serious note, write down why you’re doing all of this and what you are hoping and looking to gain from this. These reminders will help you to reinforce the why’s behind the main reason why you started with your self-care routine and they will hold you accountable so that you do not abandon yourself. Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.
So, that concludes the purpose of this episode, I wanted to thank you so much for joining me in The Spiritual Alien podcast, make sure you follow me on Facebook @ TheSpiritualAlien and on Instagram @ zionzeta.
Take care and I’ll speak to you soon!
This is Zion Zeta, always at your service!